It’s completely natural for us to be inspired by someone who’s achieved the level of success we aspire to. If THEY can do it, we reason, surely WE can too – especially if we have insider access to the secrets of their success.
And everywhere you look these days, it seems someone’s offering to share their ‘secrets’ in the form of a success blueprint. You know the type of thing:
“Follow my proven 7-Step Blueprint and you too can build a 6 figure business like me!”
Now, if you think you detect a hint of cynicism creeping in here – you’d be right! If there’s one thing I’ve learned from being in business for myself for a decade and more, it’s that there is NO magic formula…. NO one-size-fits-all approach…. and NO proven blueprint.
But back in the day, when I was looking around for guidance at the very start of my business journey, I was seduced into buying one such ‘proven’ blueprint. I naively thought that I all I had to do was follow the blueprint, duplicate exactly what the blueprint owner did and success would surely be mine, all mine……right?
Well, let’s just say the story didn’t end well, so if you like a happy ending turn away now! Because along the way, I discovered something which made my failure inevitable…… and you don’t need to be a genius to guess what it was:
I WASN’T HER!
Even though I tried hard to ‘adopt’ her strategies (after all, this was a proven blueprint!) it soon became obvious that there was a fundamental element missing – me!
I know hindsight is a wonderful thing but if I had thought it through properly at the start I would have realised that the blueprint owner and I were worlds apart in SO many ways and it became increasingly apparent that….
- I didn’t even want a business like hers
- I didn’t want to work the unsustainable number of hours she was working to achieve success
- Her strategies simply weren’t congruent with who I was or how I wanted do business
- Replicating her blueprint meant having to turn myself into something I’m not
So, you get the picture.
The thing was, as much as I admired this woman, we were very different people with different values, style, personality, resources and expertise.
I felt like I was walking in someone else’s shoes and before I’d gone very far, the pinch-points began to blister and hurt and I had no option but to reluctantly limp away.
So it’ll probably come as no surprise when I tell you that it was certainly NOT an experience I wanted to repeat!
Don’t get me wrong, I still continue to regularly invest in both my personal and professional development but I consciously choose to work only with those who support me in growing my business MY way and NOT those who are only interested in offering me THEIR success blueprint.
You’re a unique individual not a clone!
So has this resonated with you? Maybe you’ve also tried someone else’s strategies only to be left wondering why you can’t make them work?
If blueprints aren’t the answer – what is?
Having some sort of a structure or framework to guide you through the maze of opportunities that exist for you and your business can make SUCH a difference and working with mentors and coaches can be HUGELY beneficial… you simply need to choose carefully!
Find a good fit
I know how important it is to be a good match for my clients in my own business. I know I’m a very good coach, but I am not the best business coach for everyone. I wouldn’t expect anyone to commit to us working together without having had a conversation first so that TOGETHER we can decide if my programme would be the best support for you.
And in case you’re wondering, I HAVE turned down potential clients who were looking for something outside the scope of what I do well. We can only become an effective collaboration IF we are a good fit – like any relationship, there has to be chemistry.
It’s YOUR business, not theirs
Look for someone who can guide you rather than tell you exactly what to do. Someone who can lead you through the maze of opportunities and help you find the right path to take you where YOU want to be. Someone who will encourage you to embrace your uniqueness, NOT a watered-down version of who THEY are.
So if nothing else, my ‘blueprint experience’ taught me a valuable lesson I’ve never forgotten and one that I’ve integrated into absolutely everything I do in my business today:
Don’t try to be something you’re not and instead, embrace your true authenticity.
The more I reflect upon it, the more I’ve come to realise that EVERY business benefits from being an authentic expression of the person who creates it. Get this right and things will flow and feel effortless. AND, not only is it easier, it’s also HUGELY more rewarding and enjoyable!
Now, over to you…
Do you have a ‘Blueprint’ experience to share? Maybe it worked well for you – in which case why do you think that was? What do you look for in a mentor or coach? What makes someone a ‘good fit’ for you?
Please share your thoughts in the comments below – I look forward to reading them!
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